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Expect the Unexpected

notebook page with "new plan" crossed out and "new new plan" written

I love to plan – LOVE setting out all my upcoming adventures in my calendar, dreaming about what I’ll do on that weekend in Manhattan or what chores to tackle before a gaggle of teenagers fills my basement for a sleepover. A lesson I have to learn repeatedly though, is that whatever story I tell…

Letting “Sunk Costs” Go

library room

I sometimes keep things or stay in situations that I know are a mistake, just because I spent a lot of time, energy, and money making that mistake. It's hard to let go of my "investment", but as soon as I do I wonder why I didn't move on much sooner - the freedom and…

Freedom from The Scary Pile

blossoming tree on a peaceful street

When I was young and in a new job, one of my responsibilities was approving (or not) requests for government funding in an area I didn’t know much (okay, nothing) about clinically. There were rules and politics and personalities involved in each decision and I didn’t like doing it. The requests came in by mail,…

A few words about things taking the time they need, and yoga

me and my daughter in downward dog pose

My first yoga class echoed with laughter as a friend and I twisted our bodies into awkward knots. We were young, at a gym to get a workout, and paid no attention to the meditative or relaxation parts of the class. A bit older, I lay on my mat in a library basement, no longer…

Get Started Decluttering Your Workspace

series of different shaped lightbulbs

Here's a video with an easy exercise to make a difference in your workspace. I tell a story, and somehow make a connection between light fixtures and writing things down at work... There's some Marie Kondo magic in there too. If videos aren't your thing, read further below for a quicker version, and for how…

Let the snowflakes settle

snowflakes filling the air

As I got better at noticing my emotions and my internal state in general, I often felt that it wasn’t what it “should” be, and then I'd feel a drive to change it. I had a whole host of techniques to fix my thinking. If I was worrying about something, my strategy was to think…

What I’m Reading Now

Essentialism diagram of chaos to order

I’m a big fan of meditation and yoga, and everything I’m learning about buddhism is bringing me more and more wisdom and inner peace. I’m also irreverent and sarcastic, and probably used to make fun of people who talked about ‘inner peace’. Life is messy 🙂  So, while my reading lately has been spiritually enriching…

Finish Chewing Before Filling Your Fork: A lesson in decluttering

food on forks

It was in an article about the Queen of England that I read about this habit. She takes a small amount of food into her mouth, puts down her fork and chews completely before loading her fork for another bite. As someone who approached every meal as if it were a speed-eating contest ... I…

The Year Of… ?

loaf of focaccia bread

A favourite habit of mine is naming my day / week / year - giving each one a theme or a focus. I'll have a day of Ideas or week of Calm, and picking the name makes me smile, even when my teenagers roll their eyes at me repeating the really good ones way too…

email Magic

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At my work, we had a productivity expert do a training session with us, and she asked how many emails we each had in our inbox. The answers - in a team of 15 people - ranged from 4 to 800. Everyone on the team works in a similar job, with a similar volume of…